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Last Updated on March 16, 2025 by Work In My Pajamas
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Key Takeaways That Stuck With Me
1. Success vs. Failure? It’s All About Handling Pressure
Ever wonder why some people thrive under stress while others crumble like a stale cookie? According to Cole, the difference between success and failure is how well you handle pressure.
Winners see pressure as a challenge.
Losers see it as a reason to panic.
Life’s going to throw curveballs. Sometimes it’s work stress, sometimes it’s getting stuck behind a slow walker when you’re already late. Either way, if you can master composure and resilience, you’re already ahead.
2. What You Believe Will Attract (or Repel)
Basically, if you walk around thinking, The world is out to get me, guess what? It probably will. But if you believe in abundance, opportunity, and good vibes, you’ll start seeing those things more often.
It’s not magic. It’s just how your brain works—it filters reality based on your expectations. So, in short:
Believe in possibilities = attract them.
Believe everything sucks = guess what, it will.
3. Love’s Depth is Measured by Giving
Okay, this one hit deep. Cole argues that you only truly know the depth of love by how much you’re willing to give. Not just money or gifts, but time, energy, effort—the things that actually matter.
Think about it: When someone gives freely without expecting anything in return, that’s real love. But if you’re constantly keeping score (I did this for you, now you owe me!), is that love… or just a transaction?
(Pauses to reevaluate every past relationship ever. )
4. Let Go of Resentment & Release Debts to the Universe
This one felt like a mental detox. Cole suggests that if someone owes you—whether it’s money, an apology, or just basic decency—but refuses to pay up, stop carrying the resentment. Instead, mentally release the debt to the universe.
The idea? The universe will pay you back in its own way, even if that person never does.
The benefit? You stop wasting emotional energy on people who aren’t worth it.
And here’s the real kicker—giving things up to the universe doesn’t just free you from grudges. It also clears out envy, jealousy, the thirst for revenge, and that nagging desire to “get even.”
Because let’s be real—you don’t want that junk cluttering up your spirit. It’s like carrying around a bag of old, rotting garbage. Eventually, it’s going to start stinking up your soul. And no one wants to be that person who’s walking around with emotional trash weighing them down.
So let it go. Release it. Take out the spiritual garbage.
Your future self will thank you.
On to Book #5: Motivating People by Robert Heller
Now that I’m all inspired and spiritually decluttered, it’s time to tackle Book #5: Motivating People by Robert Heller.
Because, let’s be honest—we all need a little help in this department. Whether it’s getting yourself motivated, inspiring a team, or just figuring out how to convince someone else to do something (without bribery or excessive caffeine), motivation is a skill worth mastering.
Let’s see if Heller has the answers. Stay tuned!
